#Painful brave and beautiful things how to
As the years pass, I’m learning how to better trust my gut and not do the wrong thing, but every so often I get a harsh reminder that I’ve still got work to do. Even when I justified it to myself-as I did every damn time-the truest part of me knew I was doing the wrong thing. I don’t think there’s a single dumbass thing I’ve done in my adult life that I didn’t know was a dumbass thing to do while I was doing it. Saying it’s hard is ultimately a justification to do whatever seems like the easiest thing to do-have the affair, stay at that horrible job, end a friendship over a slight, keep loving someone who treats you terribly. Brave people know that they hold the wheel in their own lives, which means they call the shots. I know it’s hard to know what to do when you have a conflicting set of emotions and desires, but it’s not as hard as we pretend it is. When you have the bravery for it, you’re strong enough to know your own worth without seeking validation or approval from everyone else. Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore. Don’t focus on the short-term fun instead of the long-term fall out. Before reaching the longed-for happy ending, Cesur Alemdarolu (Kvanç Tatltu) e Sühan Korluda (Tuba Büyüküstün) will have to suffer a little longer. Don’t fight when you should hold steady or hold steady when you should fight. Don’t stay when you know you should go or go when you know you should stay. Strayed's books have been translated into nearly forty languages around the world and have been adapted for both the screen and the stage. Never let anyone try to tell you that something out of your control is your fault, and try to never let yourself be hurt by the ignorance of others. Cheryl Strayed is the author of the 1 New York Times bestselling memoir Wild, the New York Times bestsellers Tiny Beautiful Things and Brave Enough, and the novel Torch. You are worthy of so much love, it is unbelievable just how worth it you are. 80 Likes, 9 Comments - Chelsea (thebookish.nerd) on Instagram: If youre going to live, you might as well do painful, brave, and beautiful things. Do you have any advice of what not to do?ĭon’t do what you know on a gut level to be the wrong thing to do. Every single one of you ED (or non-ED) warriors is strong, brave and beautiful. “You give a lot of great advice about what to do.